Thursday, May 28, 2009

A Perfect Day

We are having such a great day. Angelgirl has been dying to play in a pool, so we went to the grocery store to pick one out. We looked at all the different options and discussed the pros and cons of each different model. Angelgirl finally picked out her perfect pool and bought it all by herself.

We have taken up residence outside - Angelgirl in the pool and me underneath the shade tree. Giggles and splashes fill the back yard. The laughter is only interrupted by cries of,"Mommy, watch me! Mommy, look at this!"

Even the dog is content.

Who would have thought that this would be my perfect day? I'm not drinking margaritas on the beach, sailing in the Caribbean, or climbing a mountain. Nevertheless, I am blissfully happy. Listening to the love of my life lose herself in joy lightens my soul. She reminds me how important it is to live in the moment. She urges me to forget the tasks yet to be done and the mistakes of the past and find joy in this utterly perfect moment.

Life is good.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Walking with my Angel

Every morning we take our beagle for a walk. For a while, Angelgirl was riding her bike while the dog and I walked. The last few days, however, she has decided to take her baby for a walk in her toy stroller. It is a little bittersweet for me. It seems like I should still be pushing her in the stroller, but I digress.

Now I love my Angelgirl. I love everything about her. I love that she notices every squirrel, rabbit, and ant while we walk. I love that she notices which flowers have bloomed since our last walk. I love that she stops to let every single roly-poly pass in front of her so she won't accidentally run over him. I love that taking a quick walk around the block with Angelgirl means planning on being gone for at least 45 minutes while my poor dog nearly chokes himself from trying to keep us moving. Most of all, I love that I can take the time to let her explore her world without having to rush her. Life is good.

Friday, May 22, 2009

The Teeter-Totter - In Memoriam

The weather has been unseasonably cool (or at least not so hot that you want to put ice in your bra) for this past week, so we have been getting out and exploring some new parks. Parks have definitely changed since I was a kid. Some changes are good. After all, I will never lament the demise of the metal slide. As a kid, nothing sucked worse than seeing that tall, shiny slide mocking you, daring you to climb the ladder and expose the back of your legs to third degree burns for the thrill of fastest descent known to man.

Still, today's parks are nothing like the parks of my childhood. For one thing, there is all that infernal plastic. Everything is plastic, even the faux wood playscapes. I miss the parks that allowed us to get hurt and learn a thing or two. One of the things I miss the most, though, is the teeter-totter. When did the Safety Gods decide to ban teeter-totters? and more importantly, why?

So here is my ode to the teeter-totter - in memoriam

The Teeter-Totter

See Saw, Marjorie Daw,
we sang and giggled and laughed.
Up and down, and up and down
as the days of our childhood slipped past.

We would take turns holding the other to the sky
and tell all the secrets of the day,
then it was up and down, and up and down
'till all too quickly our youth flew away.

Remember lifting your feet so you landed hard
and your partner nearly bumped off her seat?
Up and down, and up and down,
now it's your turn. Try to stand on your feet.

Where did it go? Why did it leave?
Our playmate, our childhood, our youth?
With all the ups and downs and ups and downs,
about life, the teeter-totter taught us the truth.


Monday, May 11, 2009

Best Mother's Day Present

I confess - I used to be one of those TV-Nazi moms. We had strict limits about what, when, and how much TV Angelgirl could view. I've loosened up quite a bit over the past month or so. I'm still pretty particular about what channels she can watch, but she has been given a lot more choice about watching TV. What does this have to do with Mother's Day?

Well, yesterday while I was getting ready to take Angelgirl on an outing, she decided to watch a little Dora. After the episode was over, she came running into the bathroom saying, "Mommy, I want to make you a Mother's Day present all by myself." I was surprised and touched. After all, we hadn't really talked about Mother's Day that much. I told her to wait just a second and I would help her get some supplies out. She ran off. (She pretty much runs everywhere these days.) I finished brushing my teeth and was putting my contacts in when I hear, "Help! I can't reach the crayons."

I come out of the bathroom to see Angelgirl climbing on top of the table to reach the crayons in the middle. She was being so independent that I just let her do her thing and went back to get dressed, all the while listening for any cries for help. About 10 minutes later, she came running to me with this picture:

"It's your Mother's Day present and I made it all by myself." Of course, being the overly emotional person I am, I started to cry. I was so touched because she had taken great pains to do it all herself. Now, my husband could have taken her to buy me a present, or she could have made one of those infernal "projects" at preschool, but neither would have meant half as much to me as this sweet, sweet gesture. This was all Angelgirl. She decided what she wanted to do, and she did it all on her own. Now I know that the suggestion probably came from Dora, but still . . . . How good to have a daughter who is genuinely sweet.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Stop and Smell the Daffodils

There are so many things that I am enjoying now that I get to spend all day with Angelgirl. Of course, sleeping in is pretty high on the list, as is not having to rush her out the door in the morning. However, the thing I'm enjoying most is just watching her set her own agenda.

Most days, she wants to start off the day by making a list of things that we are going to do. We started doing this back during Spring Break when I was working on a huge project. I found that if I have to work, she handles it much better if it is on the list somewhere. Anyway, we make a list with pictures and checkboxes of things we are going to do. She loves being able to check things off the list.

I also love that she can do an activity until she is ready to do something else. Angelgirl is quite a bit like both her parents and can become completely absorbed in an activity. She can play with her Little People for hours - seriously - without getting bored or anything. In fact, she becomes quite irritated if we interrupt her game. I love watching and listening to her play when she is so completely immersed in her imaginary world.

I also love that we can take time to really observe the world around us. Angelgirl has taken a great interest in our daffodils that are blooming a little late. Everyday, she has to go and check on them and see how they are growing and which ones are blooming. I am so happy that she has the time to just observe nature in action. It brings me joy and reminds me that we should all slow down and smell the daffodils a little more often.